It had been three months since I’d slept more than two hours a night. I’d lie in bed, heart running a thousand miles an hour, shaking & hoping my husband wouldn’t notice. Often, over nothing at all, I’d break into fits of uncontrollable giggles. Hilarity filled my head with a wild high no drug could reproduce. I’d slide out of bed and leave the house to keep from awakening Peter. Laughter pealed out of me as I struggled to keep it down, walking around and leaning against trees for balance.

My husband was determined to have me locked up in a loony bin, instinct warned me. When I told him “I am underwater” or “I’m in Dream Time like Australian Aboriginals,” he looked at me as if I were a lab chimp. I couldn’t understand the words he spoke but they were sharp shards of glass, cutting into my flesh. You must escape, my broken mind urged.

At 15, I was reading a biography of George Gordon, Lord Byron.
“This is what I have,” I told my father–holding the huge library book out to him. “It’s called manic-depression.”

“You’re not crazy. You’re a poet.” Dad stated firmly. He rattled the newspaper, a sign that the conversation was over.

Then I read a book about Zelda Fitzgerald. I identified with her artistic struggles, wild youth & attempts to become a ballet dancer. It seemed that F. Scott had purloined the best of Zelda’s personality to use in his novels, draining her of life.

I did not want to die in a madhouse conflagration, as she had. My worst fear is of fire and my second worst is of being put in an insane asylum. So I ran away from Peter, just as I’d left my parents’ home when I was seventeen, to live in a crash pad.

Crash Pad/Vietnam/Crazy Man

My teen-aged true love’s Dad was off the tracks. Wacko. He worked night shift at a Jim Beam distillery, not far from the house in which the family dwelt. The owners were nowhere to be found, so they lived there in peace for years. It was a Victorian with a wrap around porch, in disrepair. Although RW and his brothers constantly tried to shore it up, the house leaned precariously. Just like Mr. P’s mind.

The Old Man (as his kids called him) was a hardcore alcoholic. So working at a distillery was his dream job. He was paid for boozing. Unfortunately, Mrs. P would get phones calls in the dark of night, from her husband’s coworkers.

He’s fallen off the cat walk. Come get him.”

Mrs. P was a wonderful, jolly, lovely Irish woman. She put up with far too much from her souse of a husband. Being Catholic, she didn’t believe in divorce. When those late night calls came in, she’d wake up one of the boys, often Robert W..

Please go work your father’s shift.” The kids all slept in one huge bedroom, on three king-sized mattresses. One or the other boys would stumble out of bed, walk a few miles to Jim Beam, pick up the father and drag him home. He’d fall into bed, snoring away. Then the hapless son would work whatever was left of his father’s shift.

Mr. P took an instant dislike to me. Just as my father hated Robert W. at first sight.

 (photo by my brother Bob. Rhode Island Beach, summer 1967. Age 15)

Dixie beach age 15

He’s a god-damned Catholic, he’ll get you pregnant with 14 kids before you’re 20!!”

Dad, we aren’t Even having sex! We’re not going to ’til  we’re 21 or married.”

My father cleared his throat. A sign the conversation was over until next time he saw me with my ill-fated beau.

True Love! RW & I met while swimming in Lake Fairfax. I dove down to the murky bottom, then soared up out of the water like a porpoise. During one of those leaps, a boy appeared.
“Wanna Rock?” he asked, holding up a huge, smooth stone.
We both laughed. We were 14 years old & in love from that day forth.

Valentine RWP

Card RW drew for me on the spot after I threw an “Irish temper fit” because he forgot Valentine’s Day. We’d been dating for 2 years by then.

Author: dixiewriter

Due to my father's job as an explorer/cartographer, my family moved 48 times before I turned 13. We lived where Dad worked: on mountain tops (in park ranger cabins), in deserts, swamps, along coastlines from Maine to Key West & other wild places. My father mapped parts of Antarctica, living there for 8 months in 1961-62. A mountain peak & a glacier are named after him (William C. Elder, USGS) As an adult, I helped Lars Eric Lindblad (then president of World Wildlife) find out about the migration path of Silverback gorillas (from Tanzania into Kenya). On my information, he chose to move Lindblad Travel's photographic safari camps to accommodate these wonderful creatures. I got a Jimmy Carter grant to teach after I graduated from Madison College. Grantees had to sign up to teach for at least a year in a severely impoverished school anywhere in America. I taught for 3 & 1/2 years in SW Virginia near Bluegrass Central (Galax, VA). I taught 7th-9th grade English, Drama, Journalism. I was the forensics coach. Moved to Connecticut & worked for Lars Lindblad, typing up the manuscript for his autobiography, working with Liz & John Fuller on this book. (They co-wrote "Ghost of Flight 415" & other books about unusual phenomenon. Moved to Colorado in 1982. Worked as "gal friday" for 12 detectives at the Boulder Police Dept. Set up files for DA to use in court amongst other things. Then at a law firm. Next, CU/Boulder for 10 years. At CU, workers could take a free course each semester. So I did 5 Master's levels courses in special ed' & many in creative writing/history/religion & other subjects at the Master's level. I taught "Drama for the Disabled" in Boulder, CO after the teacher had to quit due to health issues. It was wonderful! My last 7 years working, I helped adults/teens/children with various brain differences such as autism. I was diagnosed at age 45 with 3 types of seizures, manic depression (atypical, rarely depressions, mostly manias), OCD & PTSD. At age 67 (!!) this diagnosis was changed. The manias are most likely due to temporal lobe "disturbance." The other symptoms are due to "high functioning" autism or Asperger's. Shock!! I do Tai Chi 3x/day which helps me to calm down. My husband & I work out at a gym 3-5 times/week for balance mostly but also weight training, running etc. We climb the beautiful Rocky Mountain High places (like Long's Peak & Maroon Bells) in summertime/autumn. We love archaeology, so when we travel, it's in order to discover ancient sites. My husband is an actor with a "day job." He has performed in shows with Zero Mostel (Fiddler on the Roof, the road show), Dick van Dyke (Diagnosis Murder), Firesign Theatre/John Goodman/Annette Bening et al. (Wizard of Oz/radio show) & many other wonderful people since age 14. We have traveled to: Iceland, Scotland (twice), Germany (3 times to visit friends), Ireland & fascinating places in America. We usually spend a month when we travel. So we go about every 5-6 years. Otherwise, we stay at home in a town in Colorado, attending Poetry sessions, working in local theater, enjoying our shelter rescue cats, writing, painting & dancing.

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